Worth Living Ambassador Haddi Browne


Hello, my name is Haddi. I am a Research professional and a Psychology graduate. During my course, I volunteered within various mental health services, which included working on a helpline for people affected by mental illness, organising activities for inpatients on a psychiatric ward, and working in a therapeutic community for people with severe mental illnesses. For me, the most interesting parts of my degree were learning about different mental illnesses and their causes and treatments.

Relationship Tips

Relationships are one of the most important aspects of our everyday lives and are central to our wellbeing. Research carried out by Mind and the largest provider of relationship support, Relate, found that:
Mental health problems can put a substantial strain on romantic relationships. Three in five people with mental health problems said it caused partnerships to break-up in the past. Four in five people said that it had affected their sex life.

There are unique benefits of close relationships for people with mental health problems and open communication is vital. Anyone finding their relationship hard to manage should seek appropriate support and advice.
60% of people surveyed thought that being in a relationship has had a positive impact on their mental health.
If you are experiencing difficulties relating to mental health problems in a relationship, find out more about managing your mental health or a loved one’s mental health by visiting the information and support pages of the Mind website. To get tips on coping with your mental health in a relationship, visit Relate’s website.

Here are some tips from Psychology Today on fostering a deep and loving relationship:

Kind, constant, and honest communication. Without talking, your relationship will not survive. The more you communicate, the closer you will be.

The willingness to work through difficulties and disagreements. Throwing in the towel, even if you don’t walk out the door, is not the path to happiness. You must face the discomfort that comes with differing opinions and ideas.
A sense of humour, some fun, and a bit of distraction from the rigors of daily life. You can’t spend all your free time “working” on your relationship—don’t make it a hobby. Discuss what you like to do, where you’d like to go, and how you both like to have fun. Then go do it.

Sharing life lessons with the one you love. When you discover something about life, or you make a self-correcting move that is healthy for your relationship, let your partner know. You’ll be surprised by the positive response.
Emotional support, validation, and compliments. If you don’t feel that you partner likes and respects you, there will not be a strong connection. You have to lift each other up and let each other know the depth of your caring.
Love, intimacy, romance, and sex. These are the cornerstones of a loving relationship. Being great roommates just won’t cut it. There has to be the desire to be together as a couple. You may think the spark has gone, but there are too many ways to rekindle it. All you have to do is try.

Sharing goals and dreams that resonate with both of you. We are happier when we are working toward a goal than when we have achieved one. Make sure you always have something to look forward to and that you are pursuing it as a couple.

Compassion, acceptance, and forgiveness. These will show you the way through a difficult time. If you are together for a while, there will be losses, challenges, and some things that you just can’t fix. Weathering the storms together is a big part of what relationships are all about.

A mutual desire to step outside the box. The tried-and-true is good, but the never- attempted-before may be better. Couples who share new experiences together develop a stronger bond.

Being able to admit mistakes and to talk about them. We all screw up. Learning to understand and let go of mistakes that you or your partner make will turn your life around and give you more time for joy.

Just as we need to breathe to survive, your love needs a breath of fresh air to flourish. Giving your relationship what it needs to thrive is a truly loving gesture.


Worth Living Ambassador & Official DJ Scratchley Q

Worth Living Top 10 Countdown – Shoes

Get your dancing shoes on! This week we are counting down Worth Living’s Top 10 songs about shoes. Enjoy! -Scratchley Q
10. Dancing Shoes – Arctic Monkeys

9. Old Brown Shoe – The Beatles

8. Shoes For Running – Big Boi ft. B.O.B. & Wavves

7. My Adidas – Run DMC

6. Who Wears These Shoes – Elton John

5. Blue Suede Shoes – Elvis Presley

4. Diamonds On The Soles Of Her Shoes – Paul Simon

3. Fire In Your New Shoes – Kaskade

2. Boogie Shoes – KC& The Sunshine Band

1. Blue Suede Shoes – Komodo


Worth Living Ambassador Beth Allen


300 Subscribers & a mini Q&A

This week’s video is super special…our community hit 300 subscribers! Welcome to you if you are new to the family. I wanted to take this opportunity to say a HUGE thank you. I could not be prouder of this community & being a part of it has changed my life.


Worth Living Ambassador & Official DJ Scratchley Q

Worth Living Top 10 Countdown – Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day, Mom! Let’s celebrate all the amazing mothers in this world! Enjoy this special Mother’s Day Top 10 Countdown. – Scratchley Q

10. Mama Said – Metallica

9. Turn To You (Mother’s Day Dedication) – Justin Bieber

8. Thank You Mom – Good Charlotte

7. A Song For Mama – Boyz II Men

6. Mama’s Song – Carrie Underwood

5. Mama Said – Lukas Gramham

4. I’ll Always Love My Mama – The Intruders

3. Dear Mama – Tupac Shakur

2. Hey Mama – Kanye West

1. Mom – Meghan Trainor ft. Kelli Trainor


Worth Living Ambassador Linda Dias Menezes


I would like to start by introducing myself. My name is Linda Dias Menezes and I have epilepsy, however epilepsy does not define me. I am also a wife a mother, a mentor, an ambassador, a support group facilitator, a Psychology Honors Student at the University of South Africa and an advocate for mental health and epilepsy. I am a founding member and chairperson of Epilepsy Awareness SA an NPO aimed and spreading Epilepsy Awareness in South Africa.

Personal Success

Taking failures and turning them into gifts, preparing yourself for success.

Gifts that produce inspiring success.

The definition of failure is lack of success. However everyone sees success differently. What is your definition of success? Success is defined in the dictionary as the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. Success could be any of the following; • Earning a promotion or starting a new job • Buying your own home or a new fancy car • Expanding your family • Having a happy family life • Getting distinctions and working towards a cum laude or simply passing a module • Finding your purpose in life and chasing your dream no matter what the cost • Giving back to those less fortunate • Realizing an opportunity and grabbing it with both hands.

I can tell you the last few months, I have learned from many “failures” of my own. I think the way I view them makes all the difference. I have learned if I didn’t “fail”, I wouldn’t be where I am now and in the direction I am going now. Each hurdle has taught me a valuable lesson, not only about myself but also the way I view different projects I am working on and how to tackle them. I think not trying is the biggest failure of all. With athletes, gold medals are awarded to the first person who crosses the finish line, yet in reality everyone works and lives at a different pace. Your pace may be slower or quicker than the rest, it doesn’t mean it is the wrong pace. Your gold medal is waiting for you, all you need to do is reach out and work to get there. Whether you get a degree at the age of 23 or 32, you still have a degree. You made it, your hard work has paid off. Whether you get married at 25, 35 or even 45, you are still married to a person that you couldn’t otherwise see yourself without and accomplished what you needed to in that time frame. Whether you a millionaire at 30 or 60, you are still a millionaire. I am sure you get where I am going with this analogy. The only difference is when you start your race and how you prepare to get there overcoming hurdles in your way and not letting them stop you in your tracks. Inspiration hits when you are in the right environment.

People are motivated in two ways; intrinsically, a person is driven by an interest or enjoyment in the actions required to achieve a goal, without relying on external rewards or pressures or extrinsically; this requires external rewards such as money or external consequences such as demotion. Surround yourself with people who inspire you. Your extrinsic motivation will push you to do more and be more when you see others succeeding and intrinsically you will want to do more when you have your goal and have that “feel good buzz”. Each “failure” comes with a life lesson, each with its own rewards that I didn’t notice this before. I changed my perception and now realize that I am actually better off. Even though it took a while for me to realize this and struggled with the idea of why it didn’t work out, I now know how to approach the problem should it arise again. I also realized I had forgotten to value myself. With each “failure”, I became less and less passionate about the cause I was pursuing. Your own survival instinct prefers the comfort zone as anything out of the comfort zone or “safe zone” leads to serious procrastination. Procrastination stops you from accomplishing amazing and great things out of fear of failure. Once you get out of the comfort zone and realize why you are procrastinating, your life will take a turn for the best and you have that “aha” moment. All it takes is one step in the right direction. Search for motivational videos on YouTube, the best example I can give you is Steve Jobs. He started Apple and was kicked out of his own company only to start Pixar and return to Apple years later. Here is a link to one of his most inspiring speeches https://youtu.be/3LbQG0gMFV8.

Listening to music also helps, go check out DJ Scratchley Q’s weekly Vlogs. Each week has its own theme and feel good music. Here is a link to the playlist that we worked on together : http://worthliving.co/2018/03/30/worth-living-top-10-countdown-spring/

I look forward to hearing from you, how did you turn your hurdles into gold medals?

Kindest Regards, Linda Dias Menezes Twitter: @diaslr Instagram: epilepsyawarenesssa Facebook: EpilepsyAwarenessSA Email: epilepsyawarenesssa@gmail.com Website: www.easa.org.za


Worth Living Ambassador Jessie Fawcett

 

Hello, my name is Jessie and I’m a first-year student attending Ryerson University to obtain a Bachelor’s Degree in Social Work. I am dedicated to being able to work in a juvenile detention centre in order to help aid youths who are struggling with their own lives. Mental health has always had a huge impact on my life and I’m finally starting to be able to share my story in hopes to help others who are also struggling with the same issues as well as shedding some light onto mental health.

The Beauty of the World

I sit here on a boulder which lies on the outside of the train bridge. I listen to the flow of the water rushing beneath me. I admire the sound of the waves crashing against the shore. The cool wind breezes through me just as so many words breeze through my mind.

There was a time where the beauty of the world escaped me. All that I could see was darkness and misery. I was utterly consumed by it. The world seemed like an atrocity, similarly like myself. I could not appreciate the beauty that the world has to offer. However, it’s different now. I am able to breathe-in the environment that surrounds me. I listen to the peaceful whirring of the water and watch how the current makes the river flow in all different directions. I admire the clear blue sky as the sun gazes upon me. I’m soaking in as much of the sun as I can in hopes of lifting my levels of serotonin. The warmth of it caresses my body with tenderness. There is no other feeling like it. I look upon the shores and see the trees all around me. They’re beautiful now, but they are even more so in autumn. The leaves are even more mesmerizing at that time when they reflect the beauty of nature. Even the smell of the forest that surrounds me is oh so uplifting. I try to breathe in as much fresh air as possible in hopes to capture as much positivity as I can. I could sit here for hours just soaking it all in. I cling to it as much as I can. Yet, this is not my favourite part of the world. The night sky is definitely the most beautiful part or the it, in my opinion. It is, in its entirety, mesmerizing as well. There is something about the stars that give me hope. They always shimmer with beauty and no matter what, the night sky is never the same. The stars shoot, they glow, they twinkle, and they grow. It also reminds me that when the earth is dealing with a storm, it casts a shadow among its beauty too. But it only lasts for a little while. It’s temporary because all storms must come to an end.

Although, what does this have to do in regard to depression? Let me clarify; depression steals every glimpse of happiness that a person has. It blinds us from the beauty of the world. We can’t feel the wind hit against the trees and into our souls. Wanting to go outside and soak in the sun through our pores seems impossible. Smiles that are supposed to be caused by the clear blue skies are nonexistent. The stars don’t shine as bright, they don’t shoot as far, and they don’t appear as beautiful. But in order to lift the depression, it is crucial to retrieve the light; in order to find the beauty in things that once made you genuinely smile, that once made you happy.

This is the message that I wish to pass on to those of you who have yet to find your light. It’s still there, don’t ever forget that. You just need to recover the things that made you notice the light in the first place. Go to places that once made you happy. Remind yourself why you’re still here. Find peace in the things that you cannot control. Learn to laugh at your faults and learn to accept what you have no power to change. I thought that everything about the world was ugly and that nothing would ever change. I’m not sure what really flipped the switch for me to realise that that wasn’t at all true. It’s something that you need to develop and realise on your own. I suggest starting with the little things, like thinking of what your favourite smells are and then going places to find them (more specifically about the outdoors if that is what interests you). What kind of views make you smile? If you enjoy sunsets, go watch them set. Where could you spend hours without getting tired of being there? Even if it isn’t your favourite thing to go outside, at least make an attempt . You would be surprised at how much soaking in the sun is able to lift your mood.

In the past year, I have learned a lot about myself including how to find myself again. I’ve noticed that I don’t doubt myself quite as much as I did before. I don’t contemplate numbing nor ending the pain as much as I did before. I noticed that I don’t hold myself back as much anymore and I’m finally open to trying new things and having the willingness to want to have new experiences. I have learned that it is completely okay to ask for help. I have learned that I am not alone in this god forsaken battle anymore. I was able to find myself again by seeking help and grasping onto my friends as well as making new ones who face the same struggles as I do. I am still living with depression, it is not a dirty word. But, I am working extremely hard to fight the darkness and find more of the light. After nearly six long years of pain I am finally able to see the beautiful things that the world has to offer.

The darkness is still a part of me and I’m uncertain if it will ever leave me completely. However, it no longer consumes me and I’ll be damned to let the depression beat me.


Worth Living Ambassador Beth Allen


STOP Suicide Campaign Launch – #I’dAsk

This week I am so excited to bring you along to the STOP Suicide Campaign Launch!


Worth Living Ambassador & Official DJ Scratchley Q


Worth Living Top 10 Countdown – Travel

Travel is a wonderful experience. Marcel Proust once said “The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” Enjoy! – Scratchley Q

10. Come Fly With Me – Frank Sinatra

9. Around The World – Red Hot Chili Peppers

8. A Million Miles Away – David Byrne

7. Midnight Train To Georgia – Gladys Knight &The Pips

6. Traveling On – Kongos

5. The Passenger – Iggy Pop

4. Leaving On A Jet Plane – John Denver

3. Roam – B52s

2. Traveling – Paper Lions

1.Traveling Alone – Passenger


Worth Living Ambassador Beth Allen


Mental Illness & Self-Esteem – getting out of that negative cycle!

Hello everyone! This week is all about BOOSTING our self-esteem!

It seems there is a huge link between mental illness & low self-confidence – I’ve felt it – you’ve felt it – I think we’ve all felt it!


Worth Living Ambassador & Official DJ Scratchley Q

Worth Living Top 10 Countdown – Sticks & Stones

We have all heard the saying sticks and stones. Sticks and stones is a way to reply to an insult. It indicates that one has registered the insult but it does not have an effect on the person. This week we are counting down Worth Living’s Top 10 songs about sticks and stones. We all have had sticks and stones in our lives. Enjoy! – Scratchley Q

10. Sticks & Stones – The Zombies

9. Sweetheart – Penelope Houston

8. Sticks and Stones – Ray Charles

7. Sticks and Stones – Suzi Quatro

6. What About Us – Pink

5. Pocket Full Of Sunshine – Natasha Bedingfield

4. Proud Of The House We Built – Brooks & Dunn

3. Sticks & Stones – Aly & AJ

2. Oh! Gravity – Switchfoot

1 Sticks and Stones – Nelly Furtado